The Involvement Technique
Getting your children involved with chores and shopping trips can make all the difference to how much they (and you!) enjoy them. As seen on the Supernanny show, the Involvement Technique gives you some tips to get you started…
Involve your children in everyday activities
You probably already do something like this with your younger children, especially when you’re caring for them from home. The Involvement Technique works by getting your child to help you in an activity (‘Could you help me fold this t-shirt?’ ‘Where does this toy live when we tidy up?’).
A more structured version of this method can help in situations where your attention is diverted and which trigger attention-seeking behaviour in your child, like aggressive shouting or tantrums. The supermarket is a classic example of this kind of situation, or when you’re trying to get dinner on the table. This technique gives you the tools to set aside the attention children need, whilst building their independence and responsibility – and allows you to get chores done!
Chores can be fun
Small children haven’t had time to get bored with cleaning, folding, sorting, fetching, carrying and tidying yet, so take advantage of this, give them a clean cloth and heap on the praise when they do a good job.
Older children can also be drawn in to what you’re doing. Choose an activity where you’ll be occupied doing something else, such as a trip to the supermarket or preparing dinner.
- Make a shopping list together with your child, and write down (or find pictures of, for younger children) eight or ten items which are on your list.
- Stick these words or pictures on a board and get him to choose some of them before you leave.
- Once you’re at the supermarket, he can find the articles stuck to his board, getting a point on his Reward Chart if he helps younger siblings do the same.
- TV Clip - Involvement Technique: The weekly shopping trip’s a nightmare, until Mum gets the kids to choose, carry and pack the groceries.
- The Reward Chart: Positive attention and praise are the most effective rewards for good behaviour.
- Superstars Reward Charts: Saying ‘Well done’ to your child is the very best way to promote good behaviour. Download for free one of Supernanny’s ready-made Reward Charts.
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