One Strike And You’re Out
As your children get older, how do you teach them what’s acceptable and what’s not? It’s in their nature to test the boundaries and it’s up to you to make sure they don’t cross the line. As used on Supernanny, One-Strike-and-You’re-Out is a useful technique to discipline older children when they push too far...
One Strike And You’re Out
You can expect more from older children in terms of knowing what behaviour is acceptable and what isn’t. Sitting down to run through what you expect of them with your older children can’t be a bad thing, or if there’s a recurrent discipline problem, try putting some House Rules in place.
Of course, kids are kids and at some point they’re sure to test the boundaries. The One-Strike-and-You’re-Out Technique could help you discipline children who’ve outgrown the Naughty Chair, but who sometimes need to be reminded of the consequences of their behaviour.
Disciplining older children
Make sure that you and your child are both aware of what has happened and be clear on why her behaviour is unacceptable.
- Don’t give a warning. Remove your child from the room and tell her in an authoritative voice that her behaviour is unacceptable and that she can only come back into the room once she has apologised.
- If she comes back into the room without apologising, don’t enter into a discussion; remove her from the room again and repeat that she can come back once she’s ready to apologise.
- Repeat this step on any subsequent attempts to re-enter the room.
- Once your child has apologised, praise her, give her a hug and let her join in the activity again.
Before you both return to the room, it’s worth trying to find out why the bad behaviour occurred, or whether there’s something particularly worrying her. This might be difficult to answer, especially after you’ve just given her a telling off, so make a mental note that either you or your partner should try to talk through the incident with her at a later date.
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